Types of Control
Making victim afraid by using looks, actions, and
gestures. Smashing things. Destroying property.
Abusing pets. Displaying weapons.
Controlling what victim does, who they see and talk
to, what they read, and where they go. Limiting
outside involvement. Using jealousy to jusitfy
Putting them down. Making the victim feel bad
about themself. Calling them names. Making victim
think they are crazy. Playing mind games. Humilia-
ting them. Making the victim feel guilty
Preventing the victim from getting or keeping a job.
Making them ask for money. Giving the victim an
allowance. Taking their money. Not letting the
victim know about or have access to family income.
The victim is pressured or forced to participate in
any sexual activity against their will.
Making the victim feel guilty about the children.
Using the children to rely messages. Using visitation
to harass the victim. Threatening to take the children
Coercion and Threats
Making and/or carrying out threats to do something
to hurt the victim. Threatening to hurt the victim,
commit suicide, or report them to welfare. Making
them drop charges. Making the victim do illegal
Treating the victim like a servant. Making all the
decisions. Acting like “master of the castle.” Being
the one to define relationship roles.
The victim is pushed, shoved, slapped, hit, punched
or kicked, or objects are used as weapons against